If you are feeling affected by the death of Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II, then you’re not alone.
When a public figure dies, the emotional response we experience as individuals can be overwhelming. Although we might feel sad at the loss of the person, we may find ourselves experiencing feelings of personal loss and a past bereavement too.
There is no ‘right way’ to grieve, no rules about how somebody will feel, and how long it will take. But there are some things that people who have been bereaved say can help, and some coping strategies that may not serve the bereaved person so well.
We hope the links and resources shared here offer support if you, or someone you know, needs it.
Making sense of HM Queen Elizabeth II’s passing
Cruse Bereavement Care has developed an article to help people make sense of the grief they are feeling for HM Queen Elizabeth II. It outlines reasons why people may be feeling unexpectedly upset by the Queen’s passing and where to seek support.
Marie Curie’s online article explains how a collective grief event, such as the death of HM The Queen Elizabeth II, can feel like there's more general 'permission' to feel sadness and to be openly emotional about grief in general.
Winston’s Wish, a child bereavement charity, outline how the death of a prominent figure can significantly affect children, as well as adults. They have put together a helpful article on how to talk to children about the death of HM The Queen Elizabeth II.
The bereavement charity Cruse Bereavement Care has clear guidance on the best ways to help someone bereaved. Although it may be difficult – and it may seem to others that the grieving person doesn’t want to talk – it really is best for them to keep communicating in whatever way they can.
There are also a range of helpful listening services available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week:
London’s digital wellbeing service, Good Thinking, has a helpful bereavement section on its website about loss and grief, including resources to help you cope with loss and support others who are grieving.
You can get further support from NHS-approved online resources. For example, to help build resilience and maintain good wellbeing, there’s a range of resources for everyone at Every Mind Matters.
Whilst grief is a natural response to loss, some people may need additional, specialised support to help them to cope. Anyone who is feeling overwhelmed by their grief can call their local NHS urgent mental health helpline. You can call for 24-hour advice and support for you, your child, your parent, or someone you care for - support is available for all ages.
If you do not require urgent support but are still concerned about your mental health, contacting your GP is a good place to start.
Thrive LDN has created a space called Help Yourself and Others to help share ideas and resources to help improve our wellbeing or to find out how to support others.
Remember - you are not alone, support is available.
Grief can bring up a range of emotions, such as anger, guilt or loneliness. No one grieves in the same way. Mindfulness of emotions can help you to stand back from the emotions you are experiencing and understand it, rather than avoiding or being scared of it. Learning to accept these experiences can help reduce the distress associated with the emotions.
We have links to Talking Therapies if you need any support through our iCope service, which you can self-refer to.